Tuesday 5 February 2013

Friday 25 January 2013

One Reason Most People Don't Have a Happy Marriage



It's not because of a lack of love, it's because of a lack of something else. No, not sex.
When you look at the reality of marriage today. My best guess is that about 10%-15% of marriages are happy. Happy doesn't mean that things are just OK.
A happy marriage means that you are still in love with and feel a deep connection and passion for your partner. That your life is enhanced is so many ways because of your marriage and you feel grateful to have that person to share your life with. After 14 years together, that's where I am in my marriage. Do you know many people who are really happily married?
Why do so many couples struggle?
There's plenty information out there about what to do to fix your relationship. I have a free report on my website loaded with content that works fast. I constantly refer people to it who cannot afford my guidance. But, very few actually look at it. Do they connect with me hoping for the easy instantaneous miracle after 9 years of misery?
Here's the truth: Marriage isn't easy. Marriage can be difficult. Any long term relationship can have challenging moments. Being with another person isn't always perfectly fun. There will be tough moments.
What do people do in those difficult moments? They are mostly doing very little. How are people responding to the challenges in their relationships? They are mostly responding poorly.
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Here's Why: The #1 Thing that people lack is not love, it's not information, it's COURAGE.

It takes courage to put your partner first. It takes courage to make your marriage more important than something else in your busy life. It takes courage to have heart felt understanding for your partner. It takes courage to admit you are wrong and apologize. It takes real courage to want something exceptional and have the willingness to do something all the time to make it happen.
It takes courage to step into the difficult thing and to do it even when it's really tough and you don't want to, and you are afraid. Maybe you are afraid of rejection, afraid of not being enough, afraid of giving and not getting anything back. Facing all of those fears and doing it anyway requires courage.

Romance Back in Your Marriage

Everybody knows how it works: during a couple's wedding day, wives are completely in love with their husbands and they feel an ultimate sense of true love, excitement, and happiness.
You might not reminisce about your wedding with those same feelings, though, especially if your bond with your husband has been inexplicably pulled apart. Whatever happened to the connection that you had with your husband? Have the many years of boring routines and responsibilities, like work, children, cleaning, bills and health ruined everything? If so, here are some ultra fast tips on how to bring the romance back in your marriage in no time:

Bring the Flirt Out
If you want to learn how to bring the romance back, then you have to find different ways on how to flirt with your husband, so he will see that you still want to connect with him on some level. Be playful whenever you can be, have fun whenever you are together and try to connect with him through flirting. You definitely won't regret it.

Keep the Connection Alive
Without a doubt, it is impossible to avoid life getting busy. After all, you might have to work late, take the kids to basketball practice and run errands on a daily basis. However, you have to prioritize your marriage every now and then, if you want to learn how to bring the romance back, and at least spend some time alone together. Make sure you enjoy this time and find ways to keep your emotional bond alive, as well. This means turning off all of your gadgets and going someplace where there are no responsibilities and distractions present.

Revive the Memories
If you want to learn how to bring the romance back, it might help to think back on your best memories together. How busy were you with work back in the day and with life, for that matter? Were you more enthusiastic, more energetic and more prepared to take on whatever life threw your way, by any chance? Did you make it a point to call your husband at work everyday or did you wait for him to come home or to jump into bed before you bonded and talked about your day? Think of why you were so close before and why that changed, and then try to revive some of those memories by reliving them in the exact same way.